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My Approach to Counselling Teens and Their Parents
My therapy approach to counselling teens and their parents is based
on the Satir Model of Brief Therapy first developed by Virginia
Satir (1916 – 1988). The Satir Model focuses on helping
your teen to take responsibility for his or her feelings, thoughts,
hopes, and deeper needs.
I am committed to providing quality therapy to teens and helping
them take responsibility for what they are going through in their
lives and the choices they are making. I help them realize their
own unique potential for healthier and positive relationships with
parents, teachers and peers..
By working with all aspects and levels of a person I believe that
change is always possible and that therapy is a place to facilitate
transformation for you, your teen, and your family.
What You Can Expect
1. FREE Phone Consultation
When you give me a call for your free 10-minute consultation, together, we
can look at what your goals are for your teenager and your parent teen
relationship. You will get a sense of who I am and how therapy can be
of benefit to you, your teen and your family.
My approach when counselling teens allows me to work with adolescents
individually. At other times I may involve you, your spouse/partner,
or other family members in the therapy process as well. This
can be discussed and decided upon in our initial phone consultation
and depends on what you hope to gain from therapy.
If we feel that working together would be beneficial
then we can set up an appointment to meet. We can decide whether to start therapy with
the family as a whole or only with certain family members (either your
teen, or you and your partner).
2. First session
We will book an initial 90-minute session. During the initial session
we can get a good understanding of the goals and areas of change that
you and your teen want to see happen. Usually changes in perceptions,
feelings, expectations, and even behaviours begin to happen within this
first session.
How I Provide Teen Therapy
Therapy for teens takes time and patience. I
look beneath problem behaviours and use my skills to listen, connect,
and guide them to understand who they are and what they are doing. I help
teens see the power of taking responsibility for their actions and
explore options for healthier choices. Adolescence is a time of turbulence
both externally and internally. During therapy with a troubled teen
I tap into his or her inner, and at times tempestuous world of thoughts,
hopes, and feelings is where I focus to bring about understanding and
change.
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J.R.
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During
my grade 11 and 12 years I struggled with my confidence level.
The confusion, frustration, and anxiety I was feeling were stressing
me out. Working with Klaus gave me a safe and secure place to
reflect on myself. He helped me to look at and clear up what
was holding me back in my life. I could then make the changes to
move forward in a more positive and confident way. I feel much
better about myself now and where I’m heading with my life. |
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Benefits of Counselling for Your Teen
In Therapy, your teen and I will work towards:
- getting to know what is going on internally so that your teenager
can take charge of making positive life decisions around family,
school, peers, etc.
- letting go of any fears around accepting thoughts and feelings that
may be causing problems in his or her life or within your family
- realizing that change is possible regardless of what problems are
experienced
- seeing that taking more responsibility in their life actually leads
to more freedom
- experiencing the power of understanding and accepting who he/she
is so that others won’t take advantage of him or her.
- feeling hopeful for a more positive future getting what he or she
really wants
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D.
D. – former teenager, Vancouver |
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When
I first started working with Klaus I had mental stress, home
stress, and relationship stress. All that stress! I felt like
I was going to explode or even worse, just blow up on someone
with my anger and then feel bad about it afterwards.
Working with Klaus helped me put things in perspective. He helped
me look at myself and my situation from a deeper and more mature
level. He guided me to look at what I was denying and face
the truth in a firm but compassionate way. I began to let go
of unhappy patterns in my life and tried new ones that brought
me greater peace and joy. In time, I noticed I could take more
control of my life which felt great. Through the counselling
process I grew up and my relationships with people around me improved.
Life is never perfect but I sure feel better about the way I can
handle things now. From the therapy experience I gained more self-respect
and confidence as a person. |
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As a parent, you may have a difficult time trying
to understand, help, and connect to your teenage son or daughter. I work to help you
regain confidence as a parent and to feel in charge when you find yourself
in difficult situations with your teenager. Together we work to change
negative attitudes, stress, and hopelessness and create a more caring
and nurturing relationship for you and your family.
How I Provide Therapy to Help You Parent
Your Teen
Benefits for you as a parent of a teen
During Family Counselling We Can:
- transform patterns of intense conflict into respectful interactions
- empower you to make choices that match your integrity and not your
emotional reactivity
- take charge and get control of your own feelings of fear, anger,
and anxiety so you can respond to your adolescent in clear and appropriate
ways
- experience yourself as resourceful and creative when faced with difficult
situations with your teen
- develop appropriate and healthy boundaries between you and your teenager
How I Provide Therapy for Families
Your family can be seen as a system of different relationship patterns
in that each family member has a unique relationship with one another. Together
in family counselling we work to understand how each of you has your
own unique way of processing your environment and how this influences
the way you relate to other family members. We can then change hurtful
and harmful patterns into ways of relating that gives your family and
its members a sense mutual respect. We can develop ways to be more
open and honest and create a sense of belonging.
The Benefits of Family Counselling
Together we can:
- change hurtful patterns in communication into ways of talking to
one another that is respectful
- create an atmosphere that will allow family members to feel safe
to share personal needs with each other in a more truthful manner
- be able to connect and feel supported by one another
- bring out the strengths of each family member
- increase a sense of acceptance and belonging
If your teen or family could use counselling, please call for your
free 10-minute consultation at 604-786-0709.
Klaus Klein, MA, RCC
Phone: 604-786-0709
E-mail: Klaus@kdkcounselling.com
KDK Counselling services
for the Burnaby area. |
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